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  • May 1, 2025 at 6:04 am #445276
    Yana
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    This is a continuation of my first thread “Will I ever be free of this fear of people”.

    I came to the realization that what is actually the easiest but at the same time the hardest thing to do… in order to become more free… is to let people simply be people.

    I’m not mad at our cat for hunting mice and birds. She’s a cat. That’s what cats do.

    And I am not angry with people for… judging, blaming, arguing, hating… because it is what makes us people. It is what people do. (not only this, of course!)

    I take people as they are. I accept their free will to become good or bad. I accept their love or hate.

    I was afraid of confrontation in my first thread. And today I am thinking: What is the worst thing that can happen if someone lashes out at me in anger? The worst thing is that I can find out that I need more healing… and it is a good thing, isn’t it? 😊

    I believe that compassion and self-compassion must be harsh, too. Because life is harsh. Suffering is harsh. But without suffering, there is no happiness.

    I was very confused by my feelings when I wrote the first thread. And when people are confused, they can be easily misled. I almost thought that I was a victim… but I didn’t feel that way… so I couldn’t believe it.

    I am not a victim because I don’t have enemies… I have only teachers. ❤️ 🙂 And the strictest and hardest teachers are the best ones. “He is strict and tough, but he is fair.” When people are harsh with me but their intention is good, they can help me to grow… and when people are harsh with me and their intention isn’t good, I decide to use this opportunity as a test of my learning and understanding… if I am calm and peaceful when confronted by people, I know I am stable… if I am not, I know I need to work more… And this way I grow, as well. This is my little philosophy of life.

    Just as I love nature and I am at complete peace with nature, I am slowly but surely starting to understand how to be with people and be at peace… by accepting their harsh side. No mud, no lotus 🪷

    🙂

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    May 1, 2025 at 8:39 am #445285
    Roberta
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    Dear Yana

    What a lovely insightful post.
    I find it interesting to watch people & see where they are coming from, a tight fearful mind & when someone is open receptive & interested. Overtime you can see which mind they dwell in most of the time. I found the buddhist teachings on Right Speech helped me learn if & how to engage in dialogue when the other persons are not in a place of openness & empathy.
    I look forward to hearing more of your insights
    Kind regards
    Roberta

    May 2, 2025 at 3:11 am #445301
    Yana
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    Hello Roberta,

    thank you for giving me food for thought for the weekend.

    I would like to think about your words and the teachings of Right Speech more.

    When I was an older teen, a very good friend of mine told me: “You are disgusting when you drink.” It went through me like a knife right into my heart. It was harsh…a harsh reality check. I don’t remember my feelings exactly anymore, but I am sure that I was offended. What I do remember is that it was one of the first eye-opening moments when I realized that not only was I too often intoxicated, but also turning toxic… hurting people I liked… and it made me to reach for help.

    He wasn’t kind… in words… but he actually helped me a lot.

    ☀️ 🪷

    May 3, 2025 at 4:37 am #445331
    Alessa
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    Hi Everyone

    What a lovely way to think about these things. ❤️

    I have reached some similar conclusions. You are both right, but these are not easy lesson to learn.

    May 3, 2025 at 10:46 am #445343
    Yana
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    In gratitude and compassion, I bow down and transmit my energy to those I love.
    All the energy I have received I now want to transmit to everyone I love, and all who have suffered and worried because of me and for my sake. I know I have not been mindful enough in my daily life. I also know that those who love me have had their own difficulties. They have suffered because they were not lucky enough to have an environment that encouraged their full development. […] I want all of them to be healthy and joyful. I pray that all ancestors in my blood and spiritual families will focus their energies toward each of them, to protect and support them. I am one with those I love.

    In understanding and compassion, I bow down to reconcile myself with all those who have made me suffer.
    I open my heart and send forth my energy of love and understanding to everyone who has made me suffer, to those who have destroyed much of my life and the lives of those I love. I know now that these people have themselves undergone a lot of suffering and that their hearts are overloaded with pain, anger, and hatred. […] I pray that they can be transformed to experience the joy of living, so that they will not continue to make themselves and others suffer. I see their suffering and do not want to hold any feelings of hatred or anger in myself toward them. I do not want them to suffer. I channel my energy of love and understanding to them and ask all my ancestors to help them.

    🤗

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    May 6, 2025 at 2:21 am #445424
    Roberta
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    Dear Yana

    What beautiful& eloquent post. It reminded me of the beautiful Gathas & prayers by Thich Nat Han. It has inspired me to find his daily chants book so that I can refresh myself & my memory.
    Many thanks for the love & light that you send out into the world.
    Roberta

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